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Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Deus ex machina

I think I wrote about this some months ago, two and a half to be specific. But just in case you (whoever "you" are) don't have total recall, here it goes again...

I was driving through the BIG town where we do our grocery shopping and build meaningful relationships with the folks at the hardware store, when my car turned into the parking lot of a small third generation shoe store. I truly don't remember having any intention to shop for shoes. Remember the deus ex machina from high school English? Well the deus turned the steering wheel and there I was. I was pretty gimpy and so I slowly emerged from the car and hobbled into the store where I found myself looking at  a pair of sandals in a rather obtrusive blue. They were somehow suddenly on my feet in the appropriate size, and I found myself walking, nay, striding around  the store. By the time I was done, I had bought two pairs of Keens (Venice is a more subtle brown and Newport is the obtrusive blue-who names this stuff anyway?). I found myself walking the street in front of our house the next day, and walked myself up to five miles within a few weeks. Amazing what a comfortable supportive shoe can do. I truly felt like the proverbial different person. But then there was a week in Boston and my knee got worse, and I worried about taking too much Advil, and one thing led to another, and you know where this goes....

So flash forward...

I woke up a few days ago and realized that the plantar fasciitis that I have been coping with on and off, mostly on, for the past two years, was gone. And I still wear those shoes ALL the time. They seem to have "worked". And I happened to read an article in The New Yorker by Susan Orleans  about the growing competition between her husband and herself over who can log the most steps in a day, using something called a "fitbit". I don't remember much more about the story, but when I found myself at the local sporting goods store in something analogous to that deus ex machina experience, there in front of me was a "fitbit". It is a tiny oval piece of electronics that logs your steps, mileage, calories burned, the time of day, and has a smiley face that responds to the number of steps you have logged. It automatically synchs to your computer and makes a record of what you have accomplished and gives you "badges" when you reach particular milestones. It tracks your food if you want it to and will notify all your friends on Facebook or Twitter if you are so inclined. There is a version that will track your sleep habits, but that isn't something I particularly want to attend to with two cats, one of whom likes to stretch across my face in the middle of the night.

Yesterday, I walked 12007 steps. Full stop... Do you hear the cheering?

After about ten weeks of sedentary, self-indulgent, knee-focused behavior, I was back out looking at the leaves. Herb in what may be an increasingly worrisome trend, bought a fitbit of his own, one day after returning from his most recent consulting gig. I beat hm by... nah... that's not the point, right?

But I am struck by how our lives can be altered by these tiny techno changes, by the way there is some unseen current that influences our very physiological state. (Luckily, lest you call the guys with the white coats that buckle around the back, I haven't yet given in to the notion that the contrails above are monitoring our thoughts, though perhaps I should, given recent revelations about the NSA!)  I am struck by the way we can obsess unproductively (ok, I can obsess unproductively) for months without change and then something tiny comes from left field that makes a difference in the quality of life.  I am struck by how something so simple and childish as a techno-generated "badge" can make us healthier, and a smiley face on a piece of plastic can feel like a friend cheering us on. I won't be putting my achievements, such as they are, on Facebook or twitter, but this blog post isn't all that different, and there are probably Russian "bots" who are laughing in their own mechanical way.  I will probably be fielding ads on Google for running shoes and pedometers shortly.

There is of course, one downside to all of this. As I sit here at the computer, fielding emails, writing this blog post, reviewing my students' projects, there is that blank screen where the smiley face should be...Got to run!

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Notes on living in Vermont

In 2009, when President Obama was elected, the writer William Rivers Pitt wrote:
"We're at the beginning again, and moving in the right direction. The final resolution, in every meaningful sense, depends almost entirely on us.”

When our friend Nan was dying, she made sure that the roles she had in town were covered by people she trusted. She asked one friend to be on the Library Board, another to handle one of the endowment funds, and she asked me if I would be willing to Chair the local Democratic Caucus. As with most offices in this town, if you are willing to serve, you will be accepted by the organization. It is a marker of a small number of people willing to fill the needed roles. I was voted in a mere two weeks before she died.

As the new Chair, I had to convene a meeting to fill her seat as a Justice of the Peace, and I had to "warn" that meeting by posting sheets of paper with the time, date and place that we would gather, in three places that are public. I chose the library, the general store and the post office. I posted a notice in the town office for good measure. The choice of places is pretty standard, but it also makes it likely that people of the various factions in town will get to see the notice. Of course, I also put it in an email, and posted it on the local electronic bulletin board, but there are still people who depend on reading it in hard copy at a place they pass through on daily errands. 

Now, as in all writing, there are many stories that can be told about a simple daily event.

Chapter 1: The Caucus 

The Caucus has a small membership with about 15 people on the distribution list and a reliable attending core of about 5 or 6. Some of the remainder will come to meetings if they can; most are members in name only. There is a Treasurer and an Assistant Treasurer and a cash balance of $0.00.  At the meetings, the Treasurer's reports are usually pretty short. (The balance in the Progressive Party coffers is similar.)

This year's "annual meeting", attended by six of the regulars took about a half hour -- far longer than most. One of the decisions made was that we should sponsor a voter registration effort. Three and a half people were registered in a four hour morning at the town transfer station, where everyone shows up at least one of the two days the "dump" is open. (The half was the woman who took a registration form home for her husband.)

The second decision was that we should sponsor a conversation with someone from the state's health care system, as Vermont is moving toward a single payer system.

Chapter 2: The State

As of January 2014, the State hopes to have all its residents registered with one of two companies that are providing care, but there are many questions regarding how the new plans will cover existing health care conditions, chronic care, children and seniors, the need for emergency care and hospitalizations. In a state with long distances from rural communities to limited opportunities for state-of-the-art medical care, these are real life-threatening concerns.

I dilly-dallied for a while on who to call, but because I had to get information on how many Justice of the Peace nominations to forward to the Governor (that's right! The Governor makes interim appointments!),  I contacted the agency in charge of these appointments (thank you Google!)--the Secretary of State's office. I called the main number which was answered on the first ring. I spoke with someone who forwarded me to someone who would know what I needed. He did. He forwarded the remainder of my questions to someone "in the Governor's office." I left a message as she was out of the office, saying that I would be out for the next hour and then back at the desk; that she could call me later (oh no! I realized it was already 4:30 and she would surely be gone by the time I got back)...or the next day. In most places, that message would have withered and died.

At about 6 p.m., the phone rang. It was the someone-from-the-Governor's-office who turned out to be Director of Constituent Services and yadda yadda... We had a nice chat; she answered my questions;  told me that she would put the nomination for Justice of the Peace on the Governor's desk when she met with him next, but that the week's schedule was not yet set...(yes, within the week, the Governor would have taken care of this relatively minor matter. Himself.)  She gave me her direct phone number.

I took the opportunity to ask her about who to call on the health care issues. She gave me the names of the Governor's Health Reform appointee and the Commissioner. She gave me their emails. I sent off a message and got a response the following morning from the Governor's appointee.

Living in Vermont just isn't like living in other places.

Chapter 3: The Town

Back when I wrote my dissertation on New Jersey's rural Pine Barrens, I identified a number of themes of rural life. They were surprising to me as a native urbanite. Chief among them was the twinned desires for independence and interdependence. People in rural areas don't want to be told what they can and can't (or should and shouldn't) do. They want to be able to manage their land and their schools and their roads as they choose without outside intervention (and the nature of "outsideness" is a particularly rich vein for analysis). But they also know that rural life means that they need to depend on neighbors and their resourcefulness. Neighbors can pull you out of a ditch when the road shoulder disappears in a rain storm or snow drift.  They can help care for the kids, the cows and the crops when you need to get to the hospital thirty miles away.  One of the town curmudgeons who played many roles in town over his 60 or 70 years GAVE his car to someone who had lost his car in a fire. Not on a temporary basis. Permanently. The guy had no other way to get to work. And as Herb said when he first came here, people can circulate the same dollar from hand to hand in payment for maple syrup or for splitting wood, or for fertilizer, or for their accounting skills for a small business. And the rural resident will choose to circulate that dollar at home rather than "away".

But what I missed when I did that thesis was the deep vein of respect that underlies rural life. The ability to trust that a neighbor will pull you out of that ditch may hang on a wave between passing cars, so much so that it is prudent to wave even when you aren't sure who is in it. Beefy, poorly educated, hard working men have told me that they haven't forgiven one of their neighbors because "he didn't wave to me at the store." So disrespect, measured in a wave missed, is  a hard measure of alienation, probably the modern equivalent of excommunication from the Church. Put that together with the general acceptance of anyone who steps up to work in the town's offices, and this month's local politics will be long remembered.

One young Harvard-educated, church-going residents of town has put his house on the market so that he can move an hour north to be with his long term girlfriend. He has left a vacancy on the 5-member Selectboard, the pinnacle of local government. His replacement will be appointed by the other members until voters choose a replacement at the town-wide elections in March. Two candidates submitted letters of interest. For various reasons, both were rejected.  Neither got the (mostly unpaid) job. Some felt that it wasn't a decision that should be left to the Selectboard and that there should be a special election called; others felt that that was excessive. In the interim, without a fifth member, most decisions are deadlocked at a two-two tie.  (When I called the Secretary of State's office, the person I spoke with asked what had happened at the recent Selectboard meeting; he said that there had been a number of phone calls leading up to the biweekly meeting, but the Secretary of State's officers had not heard what the result had been. That's living in Vermont, where the staff in the Secretary of State's office takes interest in what is happening in a town of 750 people). The opening was reposted in hopes that another candidate would arise.

As I said, there are far fewer people here who are willing to serve the community than there are needs. That's just a fact of rural life. People also have long memories of those that have helped them in the past and those that have disrespected them. 

Herb and I have both been asked to serve. We have had lengthy conversations with others we respect (and wave to) about taking on this role. We have all demurred. There is too much else to do. There is a resident who has been suing everyone in the county including our listers and the Selectboard members (and all the county's judges and prosecutors and police officers and... ) There is a sense that there is a kind of gridlock at the Selectboard level that would make it hard to move the town forward.

I wonder how a state that works so well, has local government that is so limited. I wonder how we move forward from stasis. I wonder how we restore the sense of respect at the town level. A wave may not be enough.

 Chapter 4: The Grassroots

When I went to post the notice, I stopped to visit with a friend nearby. She told me about a recent flare-up between several of the old-timers in town. "Why would one family member turn in another" she asked with more amazement than question in her voice. I asked what she meant, and she was surprised that I hadn't heard about the "anonymous" note written to the State, turning in a relative for having illegally dumped asbestos siding rather than disposing of it properly. The accused claimed to have followed all the regulations and consulted with the authorities.

That led to another conversation about a decade old wound. Years before, one of the local officials had told the local listers that the family had been building a house in violation of development restrictions that allowed subsidy for their taxes. There was no house site. No one had bothered to check on it. "I guess I still get kinda' mad," she said. The listers didn't come to check for another year. "But the new group is different," she said, as one of the listers walked in.

If you live in a city, there are the inevitable assaults of noise, and crowding and service delays. If you live in a rural area, ironically, everything seems closer. The telephone company / internet service provider and the Secretary of State's office answers the phone on the first ring and takes responsibility for needed action. If you live in a rural area, the old wounds are close at hand, and the sores keep re-opening as someone passes without waving. But in a city, there is far greater distance between what you need and those who can help. The skill sets are narrower because there is always someone else who can be paid for their expertise in a needed niche. In rural places, where everything is closer, we need to be able to do many things, serve many roles, and forget from time to time, who hurt us.

Epilogue:
One of the people who is most embattled is in charge of the roads. In the interests of full disclosure, he has always been friendly and helpful to me, but there are many of the old timers who despise him and watch to see if they can trip him up. Some years ago, he and his wife had gotten a bank loan for the construction of their new home. It happened to be in a particularly rainy Fall, when weather related construction delays threatened completion in the allotted time. If the house was not completed, the loan money would be lost. Over the course of the last week before that loan provision came due, a half dozen men showed up unbidden on the house site. They completed the work needed in the allotted time. Some of them were dedicated to running him out of office, then and now.  

Living in Vermont just isn't like living in many other places. Except maybe it is. Maybe the same things happen in Bozeman, Montana and Ames, Iowa and Harbor Springs, Michigan. I haven't lived there.  But there is something that sticks in my head from watching the news last night. In a speech by President Obama after the end of the government shutdown he said, "Let's work together to make government work better... Push to change it. But don't break it. Don't break what our predecessors spent over two centuries building. That's not being faithful to what this country's about."

I think people in Vermont get that most of the time. There are too many places where we fail, but when there's a wet Fall and a bank loan to be paid....

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Greetings from... wait, where?


Atlanta.  Atlanta’s Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport, to be specific, with a three-hour layover before my flight to San Antonio.

One of my favorite writers, Alain de Botton, spent a week as a “writer in residence” at London’s Heathrow Airport.  And although he’s proven to be able to make Proust and working lives and even architecture interesting, I haven’t been tempted by his resulting book that reported on that week.  There’s just nothing interesting to me about the human experience of airports.

Certainly, they’re fascinating machines.  An airport like Atlanta brings in close to a thousand passenger flights per day, plus an equal or larger number of freight flights.  Let’s figure 200,000 passengers per day, all of whom are coming from and going to different places for different purposes.  But really, the closest analog isn’t a human experience at all.  An airport isn’t anything but an Amazon.com warehouse and shipping center, with all of us playing the part of cardboard boxes.  It’d be more efficient if we just let ourselves be bar-coded and gate-shunted through the building and into our seat; it’s only our desperate clinging to the illusion of free will that makes the machine less speedy. 

The human veneer of an airport is as thin as paint.  We inhabit the corridors and the first twenty feet on each side, a row of snack bars and magazine shops and loyalty-customer lounges fed by invisible freight corridors on the back.  The rest of the machine is where the planes and the luggage and the police and the utilities and the waste stream move along unseen. 

The choice between restaurants is as illusory as the choice between airlines or bottled waters.  Beer taps, grills and Fryolators can only provide so many alternative facades.  I’ve unfortunately been to an Applebee’s, but I’m holding firm to my life goal of never setting foot inside a TGIFriday’s.

The chairs in the gates are just the racks where we’re stored between arrival and departure, only the lack of a fork lift differentiating us from the pallet of fertilizer at Home Depot.  We’re prevented from potentially delaying interactions.  The chairs are side-by-side so we can’t talk.  Wolf Blitzer, the human suppression agent, blares from all sides so that we can’t hear ourselves, much less one another.  CNN and Fox News and CNBC are as equal as Aquafina and Fiji and Poland Springs, letting us feel the power of choice while acquiescing to the power of advertising.

I used to have a deal with Nora that I’d bring home a piece of airport trash from all of my trips: a Governator shot glass from Sacramento, a Michelle Obama nail file from DC.  But I’ve given up now: it’s the same coffee mug, the same fridge magnet, the same snow globe, the same coin purse, with only the decals to identify their sources.

Airports are the purest distillation of James Howard Kunstler’s Geography of Nowhere; the Atlanta airport is the same as Albany, which is (I guess not so surprisingly) the same as Venice.  There are some local history posters along the moving walkways, and I can hear recorded greetings by Tom Menino and Deval Patrick when I go through Logan, but we could replace those with happy chats by the CEOs of McDonalds and Citigroup and be none the wiser. 

I would very much like to be given a year to rebuild an American airport, to see if I could make a real urban experience out of it instead of the strip-mall franchise machine that it tends toward.  It would be really interesting to have an Albany airport that was reflective of Albany, a place that spoke of the local habits and patterns of the Hudson Valley.  Some would be displeased, no doubt, but could it really be worse?

Monday, October 7, 2013

Choosing a life

H suggested yesterday that we go out on "a date". Usually that means going to our favorite bar for dinner and a chat with the bartenders we've gotten to know.

Danny is from South Carolina and is dating a correspondent for the local television news. He was a baseball player when he was younger but gave it up after some injury. He still gets animated when he talks about baseball though. We know something of where he lives, and his landlord who made his money in something deep-pocketed and so provides a better quality of rental housing than most, including a flat screen TV. Danny's mom has never seen snow, so he's looking forward to bringing her here this winter when the drifts are deep enough for her to play in.  This past weekend he was planning a drive to check out a Chevy Tahoe he wants to buy, and he was planning a trip to the beer festival up on the ski hill nearby.

Amanda just moved out of the "big" town of Rutland  (population: 16,495 as of 2010, down from 17,292 in 2000 ), and to a more rural community to the south. There's more room for her two kids, and her husband who works at the regional paper. He is also part of the leadership of the local repertory company.  She lived in Tampa for a while during school, met him in an acting class, but she  grew up in Vermont and returned when she got married and was pregnant with her first. She has been taking pictures of the landscape as the leaves fall and the ridgelines turn color.  She was surprised to see that among her new neighbors were a few cows and a horse or two, in a pasture behind the house.

But this time, rather than visiting with Danny and Amanda, Herb invited me to go for a drive to look at the leaves ourselves. It has been many years since I really saw "peak color" and I had awakened thinking that I would like to do so this year. H seemed to have read my mind. So we launched off on that American experience of driving to no place in particular, just for the sake of driving...and looking. It rained a bit, but mostly the leaves were set off by layers of clouds -- from dark charcoal to slate grey with layers of  white and froth.  The red leaves were intense and there were shrubs that carry leaves that are both red and green, like one at the corner of our house. Ours is still more green than red; I don't know its name. There were the trees that I particularly love that have a particular shade of orange that is somewhere between coral and peach. Their leaves seem translucent against the light. In some places the evergreens made islands of dark green or painted the ridges black depending on what clouds hung above them. There was a yellow maple growing out of the inside of a white painted silo beside a red barn.

I realized how hungry I have been for color. I realized how much I would miss it as the winter comes on with its slate and white and early dark. We eat off plates that were salvaged from the beach house after the hurricane. They have names like "terra cotta" and "mint green" and oddly "orange". They please my senses in ways that my mother's fashionable white china never did.

As we drove, Herb pointed to a pasture with cows, set against the foliage of Fall. "That's Vermont", he said, and I argued (as I too often do). "Vermont is spending two weeks getting ready for the  winter." We had split wood and stacked wood and collected leaves. Herb carried 135 40-pound bags (2 2\3 tons) of pellets to the basement and stacked them against the wall. We had pulled weeds out of the raised garden beds and along the fence line, so the fungus on the leaves wouldn't impact the garden next year.  We sprayed the fruit trees against the hungry deer, using something that smells like rotten eggs and will have the trunks wrapped before the rodents find them a tasty winter treat. We cut down the native fern and yellowing hostas to find the chipmunk holes that probably hid the critter that scratched through the foundation, and climbed into a hollow wall beside the bedroom, keeping us awake much of the night. We have consigned papers to the wood fire and the recycling; we have removed the rust from flood-soaked cast iron pans with vinegar soaks and a dremel tool. We will clean the grill and move it into the garage, wrap the spruce in burlap, and cover the shrubs beside the porch with angled boards to protect them from the snow dropping from the roof.

People fill the hotels this time of year with "leaf peepers". Danny and Amanda are providing directions to the best places for the leaves, and making well earned tip money providing "pumpkin white russians" and "toasted macaroon martinis". Most of those who come for the view of the hills and for the snow and for the artisanal cheeses understand little of what lies behind the pastures and rows of corn stubble against green, gilded marsh grasses and red barns with trees growing through an abandoned silo.

Danny and Amanda make $5 an hour for their work. They depend on tips to make it possible to buy their cars or their houses. That's a lot in a restaurant industry; their waiter and waitress friends make $3.75 an hour. Their boss paid them a day wage recently, so that they could turn over their tips to a girls' soccer team. That wasn't their choice, but they aren't complaining.

Our friend Derrick came by with his puppy and his parents' dog, a Giant Schnauzer with a proclivity for opera. Derrick works at felling trees, and weed whacking, and milling downed trees into boards with his portable saw mill. He does roof raking in the winter and snow plows for new homeowners who haven't mastered the machinery. And in between he plants, maintains, and harvests an acre or more of multiple varieties of carrots, squash, tomatoes, basil, sunflowers, peppers, eggplants, pumpkins, lettuce, corn.... And he and his partner put it all up as salsa or sides or dinner for the frozen months. Today he is making cider with a neighbor. When the weather turns colder and wetter, he will be making charcoal to sell, and trying to keep his own home fires warm. He salvaged an old black locust that had been struck by lightning, and will be letting it season for a few years, 'til it gets dry enough to not wreck his chain saw. And then he will be using it, mixed with an assortment of other wood that doesn't threaten to melt his wood stove, to warm his house. 

We don't know much about his background, but I asked him about his parents today. I asked why they acquired (from rescue), this enormous shaggy and mouthy beast of a dog. "My dad had one when he got out of the army," he said. "He served during Vietnam but was in Holland, met my mom at a USO event. He saved everything he had, and came back after the war with a wife, a dog, and a Rolls Royce built in Europe that he had shipped over. Bought 22 acres and raised blueberries."

I thought of H's brother who had tried to do the same thing - saving his money while in the army. Saving every penny while others spent it all on shore leave. I thought of H's brother whose money had been stolen by an officer, and who had "decked" that officer, and who had spent time in the brig for that act. I wondered what he would have done with his life if he had had the money to buy the life he might have chosen. I wondered what life he would have chosen.

I thought of the way Derrick has learned to save everything, to be resilient. I thought of how he had learned that any task could be solved with ingenuity a few good tools that he treats carefully, from his portable saw mill, to the way he wraps the ropes that he uses for pulling stumps or climbing trees. I thought of how that was the lesson that Vermont had taught me...to listen and learn and care for the tools that you need and the people who can teach you to use them.

We are stacking the wood again today. Herb built a new shelving system in the basement using 2x4's from the small town hardware store, and the pallets that he salvaged from under the 3 tons of pellets that will heat us this winter. We'll probably store some onions, and next year, potatoes and carrots for the winter. We'll store the pint, quart and half gallon ball jars that we use to store leftovers, and for applesauce, and chutney. We'll store something else on the bottom shelf, something that we only need to remove once a year or twice, something that will keep us warm, or keep us cool, or feed us.

The leaves are blowing in a 25 to 30 mile an hour wind today, and I am thinking we should go up to the potato fields for a view over the technicolor hills, and to look at the leaves before the landscape turns black and white, to look at the life we have chosen.

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

The beauty time

I am visiting an old friend. She just had hip surgery. The second time. On the same hip. The implant was shedding metal into her blood stream. The prosthesis was bad, but it probably didn't help that she has pounded her body on local roads for the past 15 years, with distance running and some biking. Or maybe it did. Her recovery from the surgery has been lightning quick. She started running right after she quit a cigarette habit of decades - cold turkey. It can be hard to know where fitness ends and obsession begins.

It's the second time I have been out of Vermont and away from our home since Herb moved in. I got a speeding ticket on the way down to stay with her. Perhaps I had lost track of where I was, between home and away.

I had a quick consult with a friend who was a well respected physical therapist who retired a year or so ago. He gave me some exercises for my own bum knee. I torqued it in Venice last New Year's eve. It has been annoying since. (No, I am not looking for sympathy. Venice was worth a knee for the cause.) The good news is that my friend the PT doesn't think it is a joint problem. That means I may not have to deal with surgery any time soon. I am slower to recover from an injury that is far less invasive than my friend's. But then I haven't been an ardent athlete for the past decade, and I am trying to assess where the line is between pain and gain.

After he gave me some exercises, we talked about his upcoming moose hunt. He got a rare permit - one of only 400 or so, down from 1000 permits due to a drop in the population, due to a drop in the habitat available as Vermont develops. Hard to imagine in a rural state like this one. But there are still reliable reports of a catamount (mini-lion) in the area. And there are bears--more of them than there used to be. And porcupines are on the rise with a drop in the population of fisher cats. The porcupines eat people's houses. Really. And a friend nearly lost her pet cat to a bobcat at the porch edge. And we listened to a chorus of coyotes at midday a few weeks ago. It's a reminder about the balance between what we come here for and what we take away--the openness and the forests. And what is wild.

H and I have been working physically hard in the past week or so. While his book manuscript is moving forward by leaps and bounds, we have also split the wood that will warm us this winter (about three cords from the land behind the house). We have been moving the wood by stages of seasoning between the sheds. They say that a wood fire warms three times - when you cut down the tree, when you split it and when you sit beside the fire. That's a vast under-statement. Though we haven't done the felling of the trees, H helped get it out of the woods, we both repositioned the pieces beside the splitter several times. We split the logs, moved them to the wood shed, stacked them inside, and then as the season progresses, we will move that stack into the house, and then to the side of the stove, and then into the stove, and then we will mix in the ash with the garden soil, while replacing the empty spaces in the shed with the new. It is a balancing act of using wood to warm us, and learning how the maple and the cherry and the ash will "fire over". Black locust can destroy the wood stove with its heat. There is a balancing act of where to sit when the sun is high and when the moon rises. There is a balancing act of standing on uncertain piles of wood chips and decaying bark, while stacking the wood with the wide side of the wedge against the narrow.

Balancing the wood with the writing, with the teaching, with simply watching the leaves change the landscape from a green and verdant place of Virginia Creeper and monk's weed to gold and red.

We have cleaned the garage and the sheds. I cleaned out the garden's "sulking shed" and discovered a mouse nest and its owner - tiny, grey, with a small tumor on her side, and then while removing the under-plant-pot-dishes, I scattered a dozen of her closest friends and relatives. But after washing all the stored garden sheets and rags (for covering vulnerable plants from a freeze as the season hovers between summer and fall), and washing a dozen or so pot-bottoms, and rearranging all the garden tools, and the supports for the peas, and the tomato cages, I thought that perhaps I would let them move back in. Last week, we rescued a cat that had been lost from its home about 8 miles away. It had been hanging around for 4 or 5 days. It was probably setting about balancing the population of mice until we returned her to her home.

I transplanted the herbs from the whiskey barrels, and took them up to my "fiber room" where they will get some southern sun. We started up the wood stove a few nights ago. I harvested what I thought would be the last of the Mexican sunflowers just before a freeze, but they are hanging on in the raised beds, along with the Alchechengis and two tiny eggplants. The dahlias bloomed late this year, and I put them in vases with the marigolds. The red and the orange of the flowers inside match  the color of the leaves outside. And one morning, I saw a second round of primrose blossoms and one Canadian anemone. They seem to be imagining spring rather than winter's snow, hanging on the cusp of the cold. I retrieved the metal stakes topped with reflectors to mark the driveway for our friend who plows.

 We are coming full circle not only in terms of the equinox, but in terms of our home. Last year was broken up by the pilgrimages to New York for Mom and for post-mom, and for Medford and for post- Medford, and for the commuter marriage and for teaching and work and health care and .....
This year we just are.

We go to sleep together and wake up together and work at our desks and work in the garden and on the wood pile. We see friends and make meals and do home repairs -- the leaking dishwasher, the clogged flue for the oil burner, the cracked window panes that needed to be replaced. Our friend Matt hung the large heavy mirror on the bedroom wall. It has been propped up since we moved and required more than I could muster to hold it to the plaster and lathe walls. We made appointments for the pellet stove to be cleaned and three tons of pellets delivered. We took the Rubbermaid containers with "seasonal clothes" down from the shelves in the garage, took out the warm stuff and sent up the summer stuff. The cats have their annual appointment with the vet. And there is, as always paper to be filed and consigned to the wood stove.

It is as good as it has ever been.

I am struck by the balancing act that is our life these days.  It's not what it once was when we had to balance being together with being apart. Now we are finding the routines that make it possible for us to balance the need to work with the need to find time in the day for the chores that could consume us. We are balancing what can be done on the garden or lawn or wood pile with the weather or the amount of daylight. We are balancing our need for friends with our desire for the solitude that makes writing possible.

Sometimes the balance is a bit tenuous and the threshold between standing and falling is thin. But sometimes everything is loaded heavy on the limen between work and pleasure, between summer and fall, between warmth and chill. That is the beauty time, the time worth waiting and watching for.